It Hurts:
- When people say something about you, your family, or your church that isn’t true
- When someone twist something you said and attacks your character
- When no one considers all the things you do behind the scenes (explain*)
- When people leave
- When someone you’ve invested in walks away from their faith entirely
WHY?
- Because hurt people hurt people (stop the cycle… example)
- This will affect your endurance
- You will lose your empathy and sympathy
- You are also an example of healing
- To thrive, you need a thick skin yet a tender heart*
A few tips to deal with your wounds (You’re going to have to listen to this again to catch this all):
- Admit it hurts
- You’re not claiming the victim card, but the unnecessary portrayal of tenacity and strength will interfere with your healing
- The stubborn athlete keep playing and creates more damage
- VENT UP*
- Take ownership
- Remain correctible
- Your anger (along with your pride) can blind you to Godly advice. (Gen. 4)
- Take time to develop Wisdom
- Don’t act like you know better, you just know worse
- “Don’t turn your venting into declarations”
- You’re not smart, you’re in pain.
- Don’t go grocery shopping when you’re hungry, and don’t make decisions when you are angry/hurting
- Be aware of your scars
- It makes the event less of a personal attack and more about two broken people colliding
- Heal to the point where you can find empathy with your enemies
- This prepares your heart for restoration
- This keeps you where God wants you (tender, truth based, aware)
- This gives your healing purpose*